Keys to A Fantastic Relationship

Two married guys (me and Blake) sit on a sidewalk outside a gym and talk about how to make relationships fantastic. We talk about mistakes we made, what we’ve learned and how to improve your relationship in every area. This is by far the funniest, most laughter-filled podcast we’ve recorded so hope you dig it.

You’ll learn about Blake breaking microwaves and whether his wife thinks Matthew McConaughey or Lance Armstrong is fitter:). You’ll also learn the importance of choosing values over interests, enjoying mutual quality time and the concept of seeking to understand not necessarily agree. 

You’ll also learn the two most important questions to ask to improve your relationship.

We also do a rapid-fire Q&A at the end covering important topics like: Who’s your celebrity crush? Who would play you in a movie about your life? What super-power would you give your wife if you could? It’s pretty awesome…


  • Blake & Jess have been together since high school, Kel and I have been married since 2002

  • Foundation of both relationships is respect

  • My grandmother’s great advice when I was 14 that still hold true today

  • Ask: Does your partner bring out the best in you?

  • How our wives challenge us and why that’s so good

  • Get vulnerable to get to the good stuff

  • The argument that Blake and Jess had last night and whether it’s been resolved

  • Seek to understand, not necessarily to agree

  • Finding fun in the small stuff

  • Asking for what you want

  • Relationships can’t exist without respect

The Rapid Fire Questions We Asked Each Other (pulled out of a hat)

  1. Who is your celebrity crush? Who is your partners? 

  2. Who would you want to play you in the movie of your life? 

  3. What song would you sing for your American Idol audition? 

  4. If you could trade lives with anyone for a day who would it be and why? 

  5. Do you believe in BigFoot? Loch Ness Monster? 

  6. Would you dress in drag for $100? 

  7. What does your spouse like best about you? 

  8. What do you love most about your spouse? 

  9. Whats the best part about being married? 

  10. Whats the most surprising thing about being married? 

  11. What would you change about being married? 

  12. You can give your partner one super power- what is it? 

  13. Complete this sentence: ‘Blake/Jim is really great at_________" 

  14. What makes your relationship strong? 

  15. What do you see other couples do that make you shake your head? 

  16. How has your relationship changed from when it first started? 

  17. What advice would you give someone who is newly married? 

  18. What is the most important thing every couple should work on? 

  19. What do you value most in your relationship? 

  20. How would you feel if your spouse was close friends with another man/woman?